Vigil for parents of murdered children
CREATED Sep. 22, 2013
BROOKFIELD -- Every day is a tough day for parents of murdered children. Sunday they were able to meet and talk with others who know exactly what they'e going through.
Ken and Carolyn Kapitz's son, Paul, was murdered four years ago in Arizona. A co-worker went to his apartment and beat him to death. Paul was stabbed repeated robbed, then his body was thrown in a dumpster.
"When they told us it was Paul,” remembered Ken, “We screamed so loud why? I'd never screamed that loud before in my life."
Last month, they found out his murderer was killed in his cell.
"It doesn't matter,” stated Carolyn Kapitz. “That person destroyed not only us - he destroyed his own family. It doesn't help."
The Sheboygan parents attended monthly meetings with other parents of murdered children for the last three years. It's taken some of their pain away.
“I want to be there for other people. This is a horrible thing that any family has to go through," shared Carolyn.
The group lit candles to remember their loved ones. But there was no holding back the tears when they they sang "We Are the Survivors."
Then they took a moment to write a card and attach it to a balloon. The group gathered outside and freed the balloons. They stood still for a long time, watching, and remembering.
“It hurts the same every day,” noted Ken. “Every morning I wake up and think of Paul right away."
Other parents felt grief so strong they thought about committing suicide. But talking with other parents of murdered children has given them the strength to keep living.